Wellness
• Ashley Fern •
Everyone has one common goal in
life: to achieve true happiness. The biggest factor holding us back from
achieving our dreams is, simply and sadly, our own selves. We put limitations
on ourselves everyday, whether intentionally or unintentionally. There are so
many ways we can alleviate these restraints.
Remember, life can either be
something you embrace or something you hide from. Stop making things
complicated and just live your life. It would be so much simpler and more
enjoyable if we learned to just release certain limitations.
Let’s take a look at the things you
need to let go of in order to become a happier person.
1.
The Approval Of Others
Who gives a sh*t what other people
think? If you are happy with the decisions you have made, then whose business
is that but your own? Think of how much you could achieve if you stopped
letting other people’s opinions dictate the way you live your life. Do you, and
engage in whatever actions you think might better your life.
2.
Anger/Resentment
Anger will eat at you from the
inside. Learn how to make peace with those who have wronged you. This isn’t
about letting the other person off the hook; it’s about alleviating the pain
that resonates within you. Keep in mind that he who angers you, controls you.
“Life becomes easier when you learn
to accept an apology you never got.”
3.
Negative Body Image
There is only one person’s opinion
you should be concerned with when it comes to your body and that is you. No one
person determines what the “correct” body type is. If you are comfortable in
your own skin, and you are healthy, then that should be the only thing that
matters. Do not let others tell you that you’re not beautiful because if you
believe you are, then you are.
4.
Idea Of A Perfect Partner
There is no such thing as a perfect
partner, so throw your checklist out the window. In life, what prevents us from
moving forward is looking at the perfect image of a partner we concoct in our
minds. Find the right person for you: one that you can love with all your
heart, one you feel comfortable with and one that accepts you for the person
you are. The sooner you realize there isn’t one perfect person out there for
you, the better off you will be.
“He’s not perfect. You aren’t
either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh
at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and
making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to
quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a
part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him,
and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes
you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love
hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but
there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” – Bob Marley
5.
Perfect Life
Just like there is no perfect
partner, there is also not a perfect life. Life is what you put into it, so if
you are not willing to work hard and put forth effort, you will most likely end
up miserable. The choices you make will directly reflect the life you lead. It
is up to you to create the best possible world for yourself.
6.
You’re Going To Be Rich
Too many people live their lives
with the thought that they will be millionaires. While this can be a realistic
goal for some, it is not something that can be achieved without hard work and
dedication. Stop letting money be your sole motivator; find a career you are
passionate about and immerse yourself in it completely.
7.
The Idea That Good Fortune Will Arrive At Your Doorstep
You need to go out into the world
and actively look for fulfillment. You cannot take a backseat in life and
expect things to happen for you. Appreciate the life you live, and be grateful
for what you have. Value each minute of every day. Live like there’s no
tomorrow, and make the most out of any situation.
8.
Excuses
Make no time for excuses. You want
to work out, but you don’t have the time? Wake up early and get your gym on.
Excuses are only rationalizations that make you feel better about yourself for
not doing something you want/need to be doing. You desire results? Stop
bitching, and start doing.
9.
Thoughts Of Your Ex
This person is your ex for a reason.
If you are going to think of him or her at all, try and think only about the
lessons the experience taught you. Do not linger on any old feelings, as this
will only prevent you from being happy with someone else in the future.
10.
Stubbornness
I know it’s hard to admit, but
sometimes you are just wrong. Other people have just as much capability as you
do in providing the correct answer, so stop being stubborn and just embrace it.
The less stubborn you act, the more open you are to learning new things. Think
of all you could be exposed to if you stopped believing in opinions other than
your own.
11.
Procrastination
Stop thinking you will finally get
to whatever task is at hand tomorrow. Live in the present, and get your sh*t
done when it needs to be done. Maximize your time to the best of your ability.
Complete each task you need to as soon as you can. This allows you to feel free
from worry and stress by getting things out of the way as soon as possible. You
also allow yourself more free time to enjoy the things you love.
12.
Your Baggage
We have all been hurt one time or
another by someone we loved, or we thought we loved. Carrying negative feelings
into future relationships will only prove to be disastrous. No two people are
the same, so it’s unfair to hold a future partner to a standard set by an ex.
Try to begin each new relationship with a clean slate.
13.
Negativity
What you put out into the universe
will come back to you, so change the way you think, immediately. Stop thinking
of life as a glass half empty, but rather, half full. You have so much to be
grateful for, if only you took a moment to appreciate it. Anything is possible
in the mind of a positive thinker.
14.
Judgmental Thoughts
Why do people feel the need to
constantly worry about what is going on in other people’s lives? If we spent as
much time worrying about our own behaviors as we do worrying about those of
others, our lives would be a whole lot more meaningful. You have no idea what
is going on in another person’s life, so who are you to pass judgment on the
way they act?
15.
Jealousy
Happiness is not having what you
want; it’s wanting what you have. Stop envying others and learn to appreciate
what you have. Everyone’s life is unique; you have certain things to offer that
others cannot. When we act in a jealous manner, all we do is bring negative
feelings into our lives. There is absolutely nothing to gain from behaving this
way.
16.
Insecurity
Happy people tend to have extremely
high levels of self-esteem. They accept who they are and work it everyday of
their lives. They radiate confidence, flaunt their pride and give off positive
vibes. There is no reason to be insecure in life. If there are things you are
self-conscious about, go out into the world and seek to change them. Only you
have the ability to create the best version of yourself.
17.
Depending On Others For Happiness
At the end of the day, the only
person you can count on 100 percent of the time is yourself. Do not make the
unfortunate mistake many people do and put your happiness in the hands of
others. A relationship is not going to fulfill the void if you can’t even make
yourself happy. You need to achieve happiness on your own before you can find
someone else to share it with. This creates a detrimental dependency that will
prevent you from becoming self-sufficient.
18.
The Past
Stop living in the past! There is
virtually nothing you can gain if you wallow in mistakes you have previously
made. Take past mistakes as lessons learned, and move forward. You cannot
wholeheartedly move on to a better future if you are constantly looking behind
you. Things happened, and that’s that. Take them with a grain of salt and move
on.
19.
The Need For Control
Sometimes you just need to let life
happen the way it is meant to. You cannot spend your life stressing about
things that are outside of your control. Try to relax, and let things play out
naturally. Embrace the unknown, as this is where you will be surprised the
most. Let yourself be whisked into unforeseen endeavors, and relish in the
excitement they bring.
20.
Expectations
Managing your expectations is the
key to happiness. If you let go of expectations, you will never be
disappointed. Often, we tend to believe that the way we treat others will be
the way we are treated in return. Unfortunately, this does not always happen.
Do not expect a certain result from any given situations. Go into an experience
with an open mind. This will allow you to fully immerse yourself, without the
pressure of living up to preconceived notions.
Ashley comes to Elite Daily from the
happiest valley in State College, Pennsylvania. She was born and raised between
New York and Florida, but spent the most memorable years of her life at Penn
State. She divides her time between binge-watching “Entourage” and sharing her
love for all things entertainment.