Monday, May 6, 2013

10 things to say



Here are the 10 things to say to people that could make a huge difference in getting people to co-operate, to work with you, and to respect you!
1.     Here’s what I was thinking – Give others reasons why you think the way you do. Justify with logic and not from a position of “power.”
2.     I was wrong – Admit it – you won’t lose respect, you’ll gain it.
3.     That was awesome – Praise is a gift that costs nothing, but is priceless to the person receiving it.
4.     You are welcome – When someone thanks you,” simply answer “you are welcome.”
5.     Can you help me? – This shows your vulnerability, respect for other’s opinions and willingness to listen.
6.     I’m sorry – Never follow an apology with a “disclaimer.”  Say you are sorry and take the blame.
7.     Can you show me? – Don’t just ask for input.  Ask to be taught or shown how to do something.
8.     Let me give you a hand – Don’t say “Is there anything I can help you with?”  Instead, offer to help in a way that feels collaborative, not patronizing.
9.     I love you – Every time you say it—say it like you mean it!
10.   Don’t say anything – I know, it’s hard sometimes, but sometimes it best to say nothing at all—especially if you are angry or upset.  Be quiet until you know exactly what you are going to say.